Last night I was tuned into Tori & Dean and in stitches as usual until Dean’s minor motorcycle accident (he was unharmed and walked away). Tori wigged out, started wagging her finger, and yelled that he couldn’t ride anymore. I was so mad that Tori would force him to give up the one outlet and passion that he has because it was ‘dangerous’ and she didn’t like the way it made her feel. He just caved, called his instructor, and sold his bikes. He was so sad! PS – He also gave up scuba diving in the previous season because she didn’t like his instructor.
It made me think, though, isn’t that a big no-no of wifedom?! Why would I force (or want) my husband to give up his hobby? Or in Josh’s case, hobbies…golf, hunting, trap shooting, NASCAR, etc. Don’t you have to buck up and compromise at times for the sanity of your spouse (and you!)?! It just doesn’t seem fair. Everything in life can be looked at as dangerous; driving to work, making dinner, walking the dog, drinking beers with friends, etc. As long as I can have my own hobbies and it’s all balanced with some time spent together, I’m glad he’s getting out of the house…sometimes I even push him out the door!
Jayne,
if you make Josh give up NASCAR, does that make the TV dangerous? I bet you would have to give up Bagolitas unless you post a warning sign that tiny dogs do not belong in them or they might suffocate.
One thing you can’t make him do Sweetpea is to ask him to give up hunting because it’s too dangerous. There goes your passion too for deer and turkeys. Besides, both you and Josh had your Dad and me as your Hunter Safety Instructor. How dangerous can it be? Now volleyball…….
You forgot my favorite hobby: shooting handguns and defending the 2nd Amendment!
JTO
For the record, I have not asked Josh to give up anything…in fact, I have encouraged him to get out and be a social butterfly!
How did a discussion on marriage digress into the 2nd amendment – you Oswald men!
Jayne, I almost posted on this same subject. I however sit on the other side of the fence. As a husband and parent you have to put your family first and that is all about making sacrafices. I don’t think anyone was asking Dean to give up what he loves, but enjoy it in a different way–spectator, collector, etc. There are lots of things I would like to do now that just aren’t realistic choices at this point in my life. It’s hard, I don’t like when my husband commutes on icy roads or wants to pheasant hunt, and I make it very clear…it’s not about him and what he enjoys and wants…it’s about what ultimately is best for our family and making/taking calculated risks.
Remember the episode last season where Dean was going to go on a bike ride with the fancy new bike Tori bought him and then turned around and came back? I also don’t think it’s fair to pull the “wifey” card and ask your husband to give up a hobby. You never know when it’ll come back to bite you in the butt when Mr. Husband asks you to give up a hobby of yours…like being obsessed with everything Keith Urban!
I want to remind everyone it was Tori who asked him to quit. Just say’n…And, Keith Urban would be a tough “hobby” to quit!
Who is Keith Urban?
JTO
Life is not worth living unless your heart skips a beat. As the saying goes, “there are old pilots and there are bold pilots, but there are no old, bold pilots” I don’t know, it sort of sounded neat!
Great post, Jayne! Keep it up!
Great linguistics, everyone!! Congrats!
After 56 years, I say “Whatever works for you, Sweetie.”